A couple weeks ago, an old crush from high school got in touch with me. We had lost touch a couple years after high school, shortly after she briefly dated one of my best friends and then got married to one of her ex-boyfriends.
Now that the backstory is done, she had just gotten on facebook and looked me up. I friended her, as I have many old friends. It turns out that she's back in the area, too, and she's still married (which actually surprised me a little.) A little less than a week later, she sent me a message saying that she needed to talk to me and asked if I could give her a call at noon the next day, when she's on lunch. I gave her a call, but ended up just leaving a voice mail. She called me back a few days later, and we talked for about 15 minutes about what's been going on. This is the point where she tells me that she's thinking about getting a divorce. She's talked to one of the best divorce attorney's in the city, and she was advised that her husband would probably get custody of her son, who is the only reason that she didn't file for divorce several years ago. There's also much more to the story, but I'm not going to get into that.
On Tuesday, we went to get lunch and talk about how things are going and what old friends are doing and whatnot. We pretty much finished most of the catching up that there was to catch up. One interesting thing that I've learned in catching up with her is that a girl that I dated just after graduation was saying that we had been pretty hot and heavy with our fooling around. The way that I remember things is that we kissed... once. Oh, well.
Tuesday night, I got a text from her saying, "If i tell u something, promise u wont get mad?" I responded, "Sure," remembering that she always seemed worried that the slightest thing would set anybody off. She then texted back, "Im still attracted to you but im also still married." The next time we talked, I told her that I won't be "the other man" and that she can't use me to get back at her husband. She replied that she isn't going to cheat on her husband. I assumed that would be the end of it. Every conversation that we have seems to be about how bad her marriage is, how she doesn't trust her husband and how much she wants out but won't take the chance of losing her son. The last couple of times we've talked she's started asking about a trip we took when she was interviewing for a job (and how she had hoped we'd get a hotel instead of going home that night) and fun places to have sex.
At this point, I'm thinking (I would say I was "starting to think" except I've been thinking it since the text a couple of days ago.) that it's about time to cut her loose and go my separate way. While I originally thought she would be someone else around here I can hang out and talk to, I'm now seeing this as something that will only end in pain for someone.
Any thoughts from the peanut gallery?
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Now that the backstory is done, she had just gotten on facebook and looked me up. I friended her, as I have many old friends. It turns out that she's back in the area, too, and she's still married (which actually surprised me a little.) A little less than a week later, she sent me a message saying that she needed to talk to me and asked if I could give her a call at noon the next day, when she's on lunch. I gave her a call, but ended up just leaving a voice mail. She called me back a few days later, and we talked for about 15 minutes about what's been going on. This is the point where she tells me that she's thinking about getting a divorce. She's talked to one of the best divorce attorney's in the city, and she was advised that her husband would probably get custody of her son, who is the only reason that she didn't file for divorce several years ago. There's also much more to the story, but I'm not going to get into that.
On Tuesday, we went to get lunch and talk about how things are going and what old friends are doing and whatnot. We pretty much finished most of the catching up that there was to catch up. One interesting thing that I've learned in catching up with her is that a girl that I dated just after graduation was saying that we had been pretty hot and heavy with our fooling around. The way that I remember things is that we kissed... once. Oh, well.
Tuesday night, I got a text from her saying, "If i tell u something, promise u wont get mad?" I responded, "Sure," remembering that she always seemed worried that the slightest thing would set anybody off. She then texted back, "Im still attracted to you but im also still married." The next time we talked, I told her that I won't be "the other man" and that she can't use me to get back at her husband. She replied that she isn't going to cheat on her husband. I assumed that would be the end of it. Every conversation that we have seems to be about how bad her marriage is, how she doesn't trust her husband and how much she wants out but won't take the chance of losing her son. The last couple of times we've talked she's started asking about a trip we took when she was interviewing for a job (and how she had hoped we'd get a hotel instead of going home that night) and fun places to have sex.
At this point, I'm thinking (I would say I was "starting to think" except I've been thinking it since the text a couple of days ago.) that it's about time to cut her loose and go my separate way. While I originally thought she would be someone else around here I can hang out and talk to, I'm now seeing this as something that will only end in pain for someone.
Any thoughts from the peanut gallery?
245.4
